These dating basics are usually learned through trial and error but you can bypass all that by being weary of what I affectionately refer to as the 7 deadly sins of dating. You may recall this age-old list from your youth group days or cautionary tales told to you as a child. Turns out they’re relevant in all stages of our lives romantic relationships included. We’re only human after all, but if you steer clear of these sinful behaviors you’ll be much less likely to need anyone’s forgiveness:
(noun): extreme anger.
“Why didn’t you answer my 20 calls/texts?”
“What do you mean you want to go out with your friends?”
“Did you just check out that girl?”
These are all questions you should not be asking if you’ve just started dating someone. As a general rule try to keep the crazy under wraps for at least 90 days and ease into how much you reveal when you do decide to show your less flattering sides. Give the guy time to warm up to you first. You don’t want to scare him away by being overly abrasive right off the bat.
(noun): a selfish desire o have more of something especially money.
You want it all. To be wined and dined and taken out on the town. The problem is he ain’t messin’ with no gold digger and you have an aversion to broke people.
You don’t want to come off as high maintenance though or like you’re interested in what he can buy you more so than the quality of the time you spend together. It’s fine if he drives a Volkswagen Jetta and takes you to Applebee’s in the beginning not every courtship is going to be roses and diamonds. See if you enjoy his company and personality first; there will be time to refine his tastes later.
(noun): the quality or state of being lazy.
A lot of girls get into man-hunting mode working out to just attract a guy and then believing their work is done once they’ve found one. That is not the case if it takes just as much work to keep a man interested in you as it does to land one if not more.
In general be conscious of your physical appearance and try to look nice for days you know you’re going on a date. In the same way you take notice when a man dresses up for you he will appreciate when you make that extra effort for him as well.
(noun): a feeling or deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one’s own achievements the achievements of those with whom one is closely associated or from qualities or possessions that are widely admired.
A lot of times pride gets in the way of communication with many of us too proud to own up to our true feelings or admit when we’ve done something wrong. Relationships are hard enough without letting our egos hold us back from saying what we really feel. Don’t be let your pride get in the way of what might be a promising relationship.
(noun): a strong feeling of sexual desire.
In the beginning you may want to keep your options open especially if you think this is your last chance to sow your wild oats so to speak. Resist the urge to play the field or juggle men in the early stages just because you can. This often backfires to the point where you’re left with no men at all.
(noun): the feeling of wanting to have what someone else has.
It’s tough but try not to be jealous of friends and family. These people are important predate you and deserve time and attention as well. When you’re in the honeymoon stage it’s easy to get caught up in a romantic bubble to the exclusion of all others but try to remember that your partner had a life before you one that you should work to be integrated into instead of aiming to replace completely.
(noun): the act or habit of eating or drinking too much.
While a few brave men may be impressed by your ability to eat them out of house and home most will be terribly frightened. Instead of entering a pizza-eating competition on your first date exercise discretion and worry about conversing more than eating. There will be plenty of time for him to see you stuffing your face with a hot fudge brownie later on in the relationship if all goes well.
Bear these sins in mind and you’ll be sure to find dating a much more heavenly experience!