If you’re looking to fall in love, turns out there is a simple mathematical equation that can help you.
Hannah Fry, a math professor at University College London and author of the book The Mathematics of Love, has identified the three Ps you need to succeed for the magic formula: Proud + Proactive + Provokable. When combined, you are guaranteed to find love.
Here’s the break down.
Being proud to be you is the first important step in your love equation. Hannah explains: ‘Play up to whatever it is that makes you different.’ We know, we know, that sounds cheesy, but it’s backed up by actual research from dating site OKCupid’s founder, Christian Rudder.
Rudder took a random sample selection of 5,000 women from the site and found that the women who received a wide range of ratings did significantly better than the women who were, by everyone’s agreement, very stereotypically beautiful and got a lot of high ratings.
Don’t just wait around for your prince charming to show up at your door. Your chances of finding love are much higher if you decide what you want and go after it.
Hannah relates it to the classic scenario of ‘boy hits on girl’ at a party – if she rejects him he generally moves on to chatting up the next girl until he finds someone to ‘partner’ up with.
It makes sense. Be less picky. If you step out of your comfort zone, you will open yourself up to opportunities to meet all sorts of people, instead of just waiting for Mr. Right to come to you.
This might sounds like an unattractive trait, but Fry suggests speaking your mind is key to a long-lasting relationship.
In an experiment by psychologist John Gottman, married couples were recorded having conversations, while their blood pressure, skin conductivity and heart rates were measured, along with the content of their chats.
The experimenters predicted the likelihood of the participants getting divorced to an astounding 90 per cent accuracy. In short, the couples who were most open and honest were more likely to have a longer relationship.